I’m so tired of all the Magazine experts comparing the G-Spot to the Holy Grail. They make it out to be a goal to be strived for, implying that if you find this spot… you’re set!
Well, this post is dedicated to Joe (the average man without a medical degree), who wants to pleasure his partner very much, but is getting tired of searching for the Grail.
I’m here to give you facts and a simple “How-To“:
Before doing ANYTHING, I have to repeat a public service announcement on behalf of all the women out there:
YOU NEED TO TRIM THOSE FINGER NAILS!!
Now that, that’s out of the way…
I’m not going to give you the detailed history behind the Gräfenberg spot, because I know you don’t really care.
However, the Medical “Fact” about the G-Spot is that it’s located on the front wall of the vagina about 2 inches up (Imagine having superman’s X-Ray vision and staring at her pubic mound: you’d be staring right through it). Since staring isn’t going to bring her any closer to orgasm, go ahead and stick your fingers in and feel around. Assuming you took my advice about cutting your nails, I promise she won’t mind letting you experiment 😉
Now I’m going to give you the kind of sex advice you’re not going to hear from ANYONE else.
STOP LOOKING FOR HER G-SPOT!!!
I know, I know, I said it before in the title, but here’s why:
There is a misguided belief that this “magical spot” is about half an inch in diameter and all the pleasure-bringing nerve endings that can be found in her vagina are in that tiny circle. (No wonder we can’t seem to find it!!)
This belief is the understatement of the century. The ENTIRE front wall of the vagina is covered in “magical” pleasure-bringing nerve endings. Stop looking for the one spot and just touch them all.
The “How-to”: Slide one or two, well lubricated, fingers inside of her vagina (palm up) and curl your hand in a “come-hither” motion (I recommend sliding in the middle two fingers) … then start to massage upwards GENTLY and watch the magic happen. You can put your fingers in as deep as you’d like. Chances are, that 1inch, 2 in., or 3 in. won’t make a big difference! It will all feel great to her. As she gets more used to the sensation, you will find that she will more than likely prefer your fingers to go in as deep as possible (Way past the G-Spot).
Stay tuned for a whole post dedicated to fingering techniques!
What’s been your take on the G-Spot? Did I persuade you to call off the search??